What do you do?
I pretend to be a make up artist.

What's the best thing about your job?
It's not really like having a job, it's doing something you like and getting paid for it.

Does that fit in with what you thought a job would be like?
Yes and no, it's like the ideal of having a job...When I was very young I assumed having a job was going out and being out all day and wearing a suit and dressing up in work clothes..

I hear you, all about the briefcase.
Well it was the eighties - shoulder pads and a briefcase. I didn't really know what my Dad did and my Mum worked at my school, so it was just about making money and being a professional.

And what do you think now?
Now I wouldn't be able to do that even if I tried, that's why I do the job I do - I don't have that type of a brain. I don't see the point of professional speak and business, well I see the point but it's not something I particularly strive for. It's nice to have a creative job because it's your choice whether you take a job or not and the actual physical end result is up to you, regardless of what someone says they want, how you create it is all you.

What makes a creative role appealing?
I don't like being told what to do. I don't like having the same rules all the time - this happens at this time and that happens at this time; I like the freedom and I like the challenge, it pushes me out of my comfort zone but I need that to keep me interested. 

Would you say you're a good team member?
Yeah, you can't be a make up artist if you can't work with people, it's the reason you get booked. You don't always have to be the most technically amazing artist, if you're good and solid and people get on with you and like you they'll book you again and again.

Okay you're a good team member, do you have any weaknesses?
Trusting my instinct and my opinion, being confident but not cocky, well I've never been cocky! You have to be able to sell yourself essentially otherwise you won't get work so probably confidence... that and organisation.

What would you have done differently?
Had a bit more confidence to go for what I wanted to do. I knew I wanted to do it but I didn't have any experience, I'd taught myself and I hadn't trained. I'd have liked to have done it earlier, I didn't start doing this job until I was in my late twenties but if there's something that you want to do you'll find a way to do it. You'll find excuses why you haven't achieved it, why you're not doing it, the opportunities you haven't had, but you have to find it and make it  - there's a way in.

What advice would you give to others about goal setting?
You have to make the commitment. I made big sacrifices to do this - I had to more than halve my salary, I had to move, I had to make that commitment. My goal wasn't to work on a department store counter but I had to do that to be able to do what I'm doing now. Don't assume that if you want to do something that's the job you have to apply for, it's not because you probably won't get it. You have to make the commitment to get whatever experience you need to qualify for that job.

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On Tuesday I posted an interview with James Campbell and he explained how he had turned his weakness into a strength and found a career path that suited his need for independence at work.

So how do we use our weaknesses as a source of power?

I don’t mean the type of weakness addressed during job interviews. Interviewer asks what the candidate needs to work on and they say, 'I’m a perfectionist' and 'I stay at work too late'.

Those aren’t weaknesses, those are lies.

I mean big, bad, ugly, real world weakness. First stop, you need to be clear on what your weakness is. If you can't work it out ask someone close to you, several people for more accurate data. The other thing you should know is no matter how hard we try and hide them people can sense your weakness, they smell them like sharks smell blood.

If you're not brave enough to ask people, they've probably been telling you your whole life anyway:

'Always the class clown.' (Performer)
'You spend too much time in your room.' (Lone worker)
'I can't get a word in with you.' (Public speaker)

These messages don't have to be criticisms, they can be markers to propel you in the direction you need to head. We all do things against type from time to time, go to a club when we'd rather stay in and watch Entourage, but your job isn't a few hours in the Blue Orchid, it's your life, so you have to find a way to stop your weakness from winning.

For more about learning to love your weakness try:


Self Help for Normal People 
Strengths and Weaknesses aptitude test









What do you do?
I’m a PhD student in chemical engineering.

What did you want to be when you were a kid?
It changed at different ages - when I was really little I wanted to be a palaeontologist and then I suppose for most of my teenage years I didn’t want to be anything. By the end of my teenage years I wanted to be bunch of things I could never be, like a footballer or a musician. But the first thing I wanted to be was a palaeontologist which is a type of scientist so…

Always go back to your roots.
Exactly.

What message did you receive about careers growing up?
I don’t think I’ve never been given any fully formed ideas of what a career is; I just thought work was unpleasurable. It was something you got up to do and it wasn’t very nice. My first influences were my parents, they’ve got good jobs but they do not have the type of professions that can be described in one word, I don’t personally know any professionals that would tell me about a particular career.  I’ve been blind about career paths so it’s all been trial and error.

What about you personality suits what you do?
The main thing is, I should probably describe this as a problem, but I find it difficult to do the stuff that other people really want me to do, I can’t get motivated by other people. I just feel like running to my own schedule; what I do now I get up when I want to, do mostly what I want and yeah sometimes I get asked to do stuff but it’s not like I’ve got a boss breathing down my neck telling me to do stuff and even if he is I ignore it and do what I want, I’ve got an intellectual freedom.

What are your weaknesses?
I think my weakness is not really minding what other people think. Part of my job is communicating my ideas to other people and to communicate your idea to someone else you have to make them interested in it, to make them interested you have to care. I think at various times people have seen my apathy towards the things they care about and it’s upset them, I couldn’t care less about what they’ve done or if they feel I haven’t put in the required amount of work, people tell me I’m too laid back and I know it’s something I should improve but I feel like I’ve done most of the self- improvement I need in my life.

You’ve completed your self-improvement! At the advanced age of 25?
Not to say I’m perfect but since the age of 17 I’ve been trying to wheedle out my flaws and I’ve done some of them, but at this stage if you can’t change a behaviour you have to find a career that accommodates it, so I’m finding a career path that means I can be independent and not have to worry about what people think.

What are you most proud of in your career?
The thing I should be most proud of is when I won a prize for giving an oral presentation at an international conference, but the thing I'm most proud of is having the motivation and determination to apply for the PhD in the first place. A lot of people in my life have assumed that I take the easy option and I am quite lazy; when I was applying for my PhD I looked at all the different options, I sent out emails, communicated myself and found something I wanted to do completely independently. I kinda surprised myself that I could actually do something for myself and that I wanted to do it rather than settling for the easy option.

In what area do you need to develop confidence?
I‘ve been told I need to be more confident in my own abilities. I’m not assertive enough about my belief in my own work.

How can you gain more confidence in communicating your ideas, you talents, your dopeness  - do people say dope?
Not anymore. I honestly don’t know, I’d rather concentrate on doing something so great it can’t be ignored.


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I'm a confidence coach and the backstage manager at Think Productive. HQ of the Productivity Ninja. For more information about Snack Size Confidence email coaching course me at info@snacksizeconfidence.co.uk